I’m sure you’ve heard this a million times before:
‘We become the sum of the five people we spend the most time with’.
There’s a lot of debate surrounding this quote, but fortunately, we’re not here for a critical analysis. For argument’s sake, let’s just just go with it, because it highlights the subject of this post pretty accurately.
Let’s talk about the laws of attraction, aptly summarised in the quote below:
‘Become the energy you wish to be surrounded by’.
In essence, both of these quotes underline the same notion; that energy is contagious. We quite literally feed off things around us – environments, people, music etc. That being said, it’s important that we invest both our time and energy into spaces, relationships and activities that uplift us.
Essentially, we build relationships based on energy, tending to be most compatible (both in a platonic and romantic sense) with those on a similar wavelength. There’s nothing better than vibing with the infectious energy of those around you.
We’ve all been placed in a situation with someone whose energy feels noticeably different. Don’t get me wrong, of course it’s beneficial to mix with a variety of characters. However, it’s also our own responsibility to be conscious of how we consume the energy of others.
So, what am I getting at?
If someone around you is inherently pessimistic, and you find yourself being overwhelmed by their negativity, it’s time to reassess. This isn’t me telling you not to be there for a friend in need. I’m not an asshole. Of course, there will be times when you have to offer help and support.
I’m speaking in a more generic sense, when I say that you are perfectly within your right, at any time, to take a step back and focus on re-establishing your own equilibrium. Toxic energy can inhibit you from expansion, development and growth. Detach and protect yourself.
Fill your mind with positivity. Generate passion, enthusiasm and drive. If energy truly is contagious, make yours worth catching. Find people that resonate with you. Elevate those around you; infect them with a sense of optimism. A positive mindset will directly contribute to self-development. Roald Dahl knows…